10 Ways to Carve Out “Me Time”


As women we often put ourselves at the bottom of the list. There is housework, and kids and homework (more housework) and for a lot of us jobs. As a therapist I work with a lot of women, and if you were to ask any of them what is a major question I ask, everyone would say, “what do you do for fun” or how often are you having “me time.” Sadly enough many of them say they either don’t know, or they just aren’t making time to do it. I am here to tell you, it is important!!! Carving out time for yourself helps you to recharge! Have you ever heard the saying, “if momma ain’t happy, then nobody’s happy!” None of us, woman or man was put on this earth to be martyrs. We must take care of ourselves and we must have fun! Fun can never be taken out of the equation. So I am going to help you out with 10 suggestions of things you can do to incorporate fun, or “me time” into your life. Most important when attempting any of this, do it guilt free!!! Please, feel free to share with us what you do for fun or for me time!!

  1. A hot cup of tea and a book!
  2. A nice walk outside. Fresh air is good for us and helps to clear the head!
  3. There is nothing like a nice hot bath with some special bubbles or sea salts (door locked of course! Remember….this time is for you!
  4. Engage in a hobby. Whether it be knitting, crocheting, scrapbooking, photography, crafting, cycling, sports, star gazing, bird watching, or dog walking. Find what you like to do and engage in it. Remember, you don’t have to be Martha Stewart. Keep it simple and have fun!
  5. Music!! My favorite. Sometimes it just feels good to blast your favorite music, or relax to a soothing melody. Music can be fun, healing and therapeutic.
  6. A nice small group bible study can be a really nice way to get out of the house and engage with other women. Our church used to have one with daycare which was awesome!
  7. Find something funny to laugh at. Laughter is healing.
  8. Call up a friend just to chat. While Facebook and emailing or texting can be convenient, good old fashioned conversation can’t be replaced! My cousin and I used to talk for hours after the kids were in bed. It helped us both get through some rough parenting times!
  9. Try a new exercise, or commit to doing a small bit of exercise every day. Even 10 minutes can be beneficial!
  10. And last but not least and sometimes my favorite! DO NOTHING! Just breathe, relax, and breathe again. Make your down time really count by doing a whole lot of nothing.  Sometimes a few minutes of quiet time can save a whole lot of frustration!
  11. Ok, this is a bonus one and one I used all the time when my kids were little. NAP, NAP, NAP!! When my kids napped, I napped. Probably saved a lot of ugly moments from happening!!!


Good luck in your endeavors!